01/15/2019

“Falling in love is natural… sustaining love is unnatural. Sustaining love requires psychology, art and discipline.” Warren Farrell As a therapist who works with couples, I find this blog title to be the most compelling question faced by those in long-term love relationships. Why do most relationships lose that sense of promise and excitement and eventually fizzle out? What is it that causes couples to crash and burn after such a promising start? We’ve all been there – really into someone who

08/05/2015

Over the years of working with men as a psychologist, I discovered that there is a big resistance for so many of them to talk personally about their struggles within their intimate  relationships and I have been investigating and exploring this subject for years. There are plenty of stereotypes to go around when we bring up the subject of men talking about their feelings. However, the casual, often comical, rhetoric around the subject masks a real problem. According to the American

04/06/2015

Over the past 30 years of working as a psychologist with men doing individual and group therapy, I have often seen men struggling to maintain either the romance or friendship or both in their intimate relationships.  It’s a subject I’ve been investigating and exploring for much of my professional and personal life.  I’ve often noticed my men clients complaining about their relationships in a way that is troubling. Why is my wife so controlling?  I feel like I never do things right by her, and